Mindset

The 3 Mindset Shifts That Made Me Emotionally Unshakeable

There was a time in my life when the smallest thing could throw me off balance.

A missed text, a critical comment, a moment of self-doubt — these things would spiral into days of overthinking and emotional chaos. I looked calm on the outside, but inside I was fragile, constantly questioning myself and reacting to life instead of responding with clarity.

But everything began to shift when I started working on one thing: my mindset.

No, it wasn’t overnight. And no, I didn’t become some Zen monk who never feels anything. But over time, I made three key mindset shifts that changed how I see the world, how I respond to it, and most importantly — how I treat myself.

Today, I want to share these shifts with you. Because if you’ve ever felt emotionally overwhelmed, drained, or just tired of life knocking you around, these may be the breakthroughs you need too.


1. Not Everything Deserves a Reaction — Most Things Deserve Space

I used to react immediately to everything.

Someone criticized me? Defensive.
Someone ignored me? Hurt.
Something went wrong? Panic.

I was living in reaction mode, where my peace was constantly held hostage by external circumstances.

Then one day I heard something that hit me like a brick:

“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.”
Viktor Frankl

That quote changed my life.

I began to realize that emotional strength isn’t about suppressing feelings, it’s about creating space between what happens and how you respond to it.

Instead of replying to a rude email instantly, I’d wait.
Instead of feeding my overthinking after a bad day, I’d go for a walk.
Instead of reacting emotionally, I gave myself permission to pause.

That space — even just a few seconds — gave me clarity, and that clarity gave me power.

It taught me this simple truth:

You don’t need to attend every argument you’re invited to.
You don’t need to explain yourself to people who aren’t willing to understand.
You don’t need to give energy to things that won’t matter a week from now.

Creating space became my emotional armor — and it made me unshakeable.


2. People See You Through Their Lens, Not Your Truth

For most of my life, I gave people’s opinions too much power.

If someone didn’t like me, I’d obsess over what I did wrong.
If someone misunderstood me, I’d exhaust myself trying to prove my intentions.
If someone judged me, I’d start to doubt myself too.

Then one day I learned something that changed everything:

People don’t see you as you — they see you as they are.

Their judgment is shaped by their insecurities.
Their criticism is filtered through their past experiences.
Their approval or rejection often has nothing to do with your worth — and everything to do with their perspective.

Realizing this helped me detach from the weight of external validation.
It taught me to trust my own integrity more than someone else’s opinion.

Now, when someone doesn’t understand me, I ask:

  • Did I act with honesty?
  • Was I respectful?
  • Was I aligned with my values?

If yes — I let it go.

This mindset shift gave me emotional freedom. I stopped chasing approval and started standing in self-respect. And when you start validating yourself internally, the outside world loses its grip on you.


3. Life Is Happening For Me, Not To Me

This was the biggest shift of all.

For years, I saw life as something that kept happening to me — setbacks, heartbreaks, failures. I felt like a victim of my circumstances.

But one day, after a particularly painful failure, I asked myself:

What if this isn’t happening to me… but for me?

That question flipped the script.

I started seeing pain as a teacher instead of a punishment.
I started viewing obstacles as redirections, not dead ends.
I started looking for meaning instead of just feeling misery.

This doesn’t mean toxic positivity — pretending everything’s great when it’s not. It means trusting that even the hard things carry wisdom, if you’re willing to look for it.

Now, every experience — good or bad — becomes part of my growth.

  • When I get rejected, I ask what it’s redirecting me toward.
  • When something ends, I ask what it’s making space for.
  • When I feel stuck, I ask what I’m being invited to change or heal.

This mindset shift gave me resilience. It stopped me from drowning in disappointment and helped me rise with perspective.

Because once you start believing that life is working with you, not against you, you stop fighting it — and start flowing with it.

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3 Proven Ways to Develop a Positive Mindset

Positive Mindset is a superpower

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Your mental attitude determines how you perceive the world. If that attitude is primarily negative, it can have consequences for everything, including health, career, family, and so on. Furthermore, negative thinking can have a domino effect, attracting even more negative thinking.

While a positive outlook can boost your confidence, improve your mood, and even lower your risk of developing conditions like depression, and other stress-related disorders. Positive mindset doesn’t mean that you ignore life’s less pleasant situations. Positive thinking just means that you approach unpleasantness in a more positive and productive way. You think the best is going to happen, not the worst.

Positive vs negative mindset

It is nearly impossible to be ‘naturally’ positive in our modern age. There is so much fear, scarcity, violence, resistance, apathy, and other negative things thrown at us from every direction – from television and newspapers to other people who like to commiserate with one another about their problems. As a result, it is critical to cultivate a positive mindset and attitude, which will lead to positive emotions on a daily basis.

Begin by deciding that your worldview is a choice and that optimism is a skill that can be learned. Decide that the world is a positive place with equal parts good and evil. Simply decide to let go of any resistance to this and choose it.

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Benefits of Positive Thinking

Start doing these three things if you want to be more effective at thinking and being more positive.  These are the 3 Ps for a positive mindset.

1. Power of Positive Self talk

Self-talk is your internal voice. Your subconscious mind influences it, and it reveals your thoughts, beliefs, questions, and ideas. Much of your self-talk is influenced by your personality. Your self-talk may be more hopeful and positive if you are an optimist. If you are a pessimist, the opposite is true. It’s perfectly fine if positive self-talk is not your natural instinct, it takes practice.

If you are a pessimist by nature, you can learn to change your inner dialogue to be more encouraging and uplifting. Creating a new habit, on the other hand, takes time and effort. Your thoughts can change over time. Positive self-talk can become the norm for you. Identify your internal dialogue and change Negative to Positive one.

Positive affirmations are an excellent way to change up our inner voice. Before a situation that might generate negative self-talk arises, practice saying positive affirmations to yourself in the mirror to encourage your positive attitude toward yourself.

Visual cues can also serve as excellent reminders to take a more positive approach. Little notes, posters, or post-its with positive expressions around the house can make a big difference in your daily mindset.

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2. Positive Environment and people

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One of the most important lessons I learned was mindsets are shaped by our surroundings. Mindsets are influenced by the people we interact with at home, in learning environments, at work, and in other groups.

So many times we are unaware of this simple concept, but how important it is in influencing how you think, feel, and behave is critical, and it is one of the quickest ways of improving your own mental state of mind and, ultimately, results in life.

Who we surround ourselves with can have a significant impact on our outcomes. If we are not aware of this, it can have a negative impact on you without you being aware of it.

Many of us are unconsciously hardwiring the things we don’t want in our lives simply by not taking control of what we allow to influence us. When we realize how much power we have within our own minds and how it affects almost everything we do, we become more aware of it.

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3. Practicing the art of gratitude

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Gratitude means to appreciate what they have rather than always reaching for something new in the hope that it will make them happier or believing that they can’t be satisfied until all of their physical and material needs are met.

Gratitude allows people to refocus on what they have rather than what they lack. And, while it may appear contrived at first, this mental state strengthens with use and practice.

Here are some techniques for cultivating gratitude on a regular basis

  • Write a thank-you note
  • Thank someone mentally
  • Keep a gratitude journal
  • Count your blessings

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Positive thought quote

Life is a battle that must be fought fearlessly. Fighting with confidence, a positive attitude, and a determined and concentrated effort will lead to the most certain path to success. Your greatest asset is your enthusiasm, which enhances your positive thinking. The person who always thinks positively, even in the face of adversity, wins.

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